Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim

1. Introduction

Psychologically, the main foundation in marriage is trust and safety. When one spouse starts showing signs of greed—especially by pressuring their partner to hand over personal assets—that sense of safety collapses instantly. A relationship once based on love shifts into a material transaction. A soul thirsty for wealth will never be at peace; it will always feel lacking. In truth, real wealth in a household is when two people feel fulfilled by each other’s presence, so that assets are merely a complement, not the main goal that destroys a spouse’s dignity

Evidence from the Qur’an and Hadith :

وَلَا تَتَمَنَّوْا مَا فَضَّلَ اللّٰهُ بِهٖ بَعْضَكُمْ عَلٰى بَعْضٍ ۗ لِلرِّجَالِ نَصِيْبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبُوْا ۗ وَلِلنِّسَاۤءِ نَصِيْبٌ مِّمَّا اكْتَسَبْنَ

"And do not covet what Allah has bestowed upon some of you over others. For men is a share of what they have earned, and for women is a share of what they have earned." (QS. An-Nisa : 32)

الْغِنَى عَنْ كَثْرَةِ الْعَرَضِ وَلَكِنَّ الْغِنَى غِنَى النَّفْسِ لَيْسَ

"Richness is not having many possessions, but true richness is the richness of the soul." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)

2. Lessons and Messages

A wife’s inheritance is her prerogative, just as a husband’s personal wealth is his. Demanding it by force or exploiting one’s position as a spouse to seize assets that are not ours is a betrayal of the marriage covenant. Remember, a husband’s honor lies in the sweat on his brow as he earns a living, not in his hand stretched out asking for his wife’s inheritance.There is a story of a wife who received an inheritance worth billions of rupiah. Her husband, a simple teacher, never once asked about the money. One day the wife asked, "Why have you never asked for my money to replace your old car?" The husband answered gently, "That money is a memory from your parents for you. Let it be your security if I’m gone someday. My duty is to provide for you with my own hands, not to live off your generosity." The wife wept, feeling that his love was far more valuable than the inheritance she owned.A household is like a boat. Wealth is the water beneath it. As long as the water stays below the boat, it supports the boat to sail. But if greed enters the heart, it is like water leaking into the hull. No matter how rich the boat is, if water gets inside (the heart), the boat will slowly sink in conflict. Do not let the “water of materialism” drown your boat of love.There are husbands who, upon seeing their wife’s account balance, suddenly become instant tafsir scholars. Their argument is always, "We are one flesh now, so your ATM is my ATM too." But when it’s time to pay installments or the electricity bill, the tafsir changes again: "Men are leaders, but wallets are personal matters." Funny, right? Remember, sir: a wife is a follower in prayer, not a permanent donor for our hobbies!

3. Conclusion

Dear brothers and sisters, greed is a virus that will slowly but surely kill respect between husband and wife. A relationship built on being money-minded will end in tears of sorrow. Let us restore the household to its function as a sacred refuge, where we protect each other’s rights, not seize each other’s property. Be content with what is halal, and honor your spouse with sincerity

والله أعلم بالصواب

الحمد لله رب العالمين

Wassalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

Abu Sultan Al-Qadrie