Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim
1. Introduction
Psychologically, humans often seek security in material wealth or physical health. Yet, spiritual science teaches that true happiness in marriage does not come from external variables (wealth or appearance), but from internal ones (tranquility of the soul). When Allah is present in a marriage, He creates a stable emotional ecosystem. There, the hormones of happiness are born not merely from pleasure, but from gratitude and devotion. The presence of Allah is the "spiritual glue" that binds together the cracks of human ego.
Evidence from the Qur’an and Hadith
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجاً لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً
"And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may incline to and find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy." (QS. Ar-Rum : 21)
إِذَا نَظَرَ الرَّجُلُ إِلَى امْرَأَتِهِ وَنَظَرَتْ إِلَيْهِ نَظَرَ اللَّهُ إِلَيْهِمَا نَظْرَةَ رَحْمَةٍ
"Indeed, when a husband looks at his wife (with affection) and his wife looks at him, Allah looks at them both with a gaze of mercy." (HR. Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri)
2. Lessons and Messages
Marriage in Islam is not a trade contract that ends when the profit runs out. It is a Mitsaqan Ghalidza (a solemn covenant). The moral message is clear: Do not let go of your spouse’s hand when the storm comes. If Mawaddah (passionate love) dims because of age or poverty, then kindle Rahmah (compassion for the sake of Allah). Loyalty is the highest form of a believer’s integrity.There is a true story of a husband who, every morning, combed his wife’s hair very gently, even though she could no longer speak due to a severe stroke. Someone asked, "Why do you do this every day when she can no longer thank you?" The husband answered with tears in his eyes, "Back when I was poor and humiliated by others, these hands were the ones that held mine and convinced me I was worthy. Now, even though she is silent, her soul knows I am still here." That is the presence of Allah in the form of loyalty.Imagine a household as a ship in the middle of the ocean. Wealth and health are merely the winds that help the sails billow. But "the Presence of Allah" is its anchor. When the storm of poverty or the waves of illness strike, the ship may rock violently, but it will not drift away or sink because its anchor is planted firmly in the seabed of faith. The ship exists not only to sail in fair weather, but to endure until it reaches the harbor of Jannah.A husband complained to an ustadz, "Ustadz, my wife used to look like a heavenly maiden, but now after 20 years, why does she look like a fierce sergeant?" The ustadz smiled and replied, "That’s because you rarely look at her with 'Allah’s Glasses' anymore. You look at her more often with 'Bill Glasses.' Try seeing her as the one who risked her life giving birth to your children, and that 'sergeant' will once again look like a heavenly maiden who is simply exhausted."
3. Conclusion
Dear brothers and sisters, the secret to an everlasting marriage lies not in a thick wallet or an ageless face, but in who sits between husband and wife. If Allah is there, then poverty will not diminish respect, and illness will not erode affection. Let us make our homes a place where Allah is pleased to be "present" through remembrance and noble character
والله أعلم بالصواب
الحمد لله رب العالمين
Wassalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
Abu Sultan Al-Qadrie
