Assalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
Bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim
1. Introduction
Psychologically, the human soul has an "emotional tank" that must be refilled regularly. Being extremely busy often makes a man feel he has given everything simply because he brings home money. Yet physical presence without the presence of the soul is a real emptiness. When a husband is "absent" emotionally because he is too tired or too busy, he is unknowingly building a wall of silence inside his own home. Soothing the soul means understanding that inner provision is not just intimacy, but the feeling of "security" that comes from being prioritized
Evidence from the Qur’an and Hadith:
وَمِنْ اٰيٰتِهٖٓ اَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِّنْ اَنْفُسِكُمْ اَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوْٓا اِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَّوَدَّةً وَّرَحْمَةً
"And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may incline and find tranquility (Sakinah) in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy." (QS. Ar-Rum : 21)
خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لأَهْلِي
"The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family." (HR. Tirmidhi)
2. Lessons and Messages
Success outside the home can never replace failure inside the home. Do not chase the world until you forget that the person most entitled to your best time is your wife—not your boss, not your clients, and not your hobbies. Loyalty begins with presence.There is a story of a wife who saved loose change every day just to "buy" one hour of her extremely busy husband’s time. When her savings were enough, she gave it to her husband while crying and said, "Honey, can I buy one hour of your time tonight so we can have dinner together without you touching your phone?" Her husband realized that all this time he had been at home, but his soul was wandering around the office desk.Imagine an expensive, beautiful plant. You water it (with money) every day, but you keep it in a dark warehouse without sunlight (attention). Over time, that plant will wither or stretch toward a crack of light from another hole. Don’t blame the plant if it leans outward, because it is only trying to survive by seeking the light it does not get from its owner.Many husbands feel accomplished just because they work 24 hours a day. Remember, sir: a wife needs a "Husband," not a "talking ATM." If she only needed money and not the person, she might as well marry a bank—the interest rates are clear! But then again, a bank can’t be a confidant over evening coffee, right? So don’t let your wife become closer to the delivery courier than to her own husband just because you’re too busy.
3. Conclusion
Dear brothers and sisters, busyness is an excuse, but priority is a choice. Do not let the seat beside your wife remain empty for too long emotionally, because emptiness is the widest door for a third party to enter. Come home—not just in body, but also in heart.
والله أعلم بالصواب
الحمد لله رب العالمين
Wassalamu’alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
Abu Sultan Al-Qadrie
